I have been in New Zealand for a number of years but having moved from another country, I didn’t have a lot of family support around me, and I was struggling after separating from my husband and leaving the family home.
I visited Nga Kete a few years ago to support him with some counselling, but after a while he stopped coming, and I kept going. I was also referred to the former Pregnancy and Parenting programme because I was pregnant at the time – I found it really helpful in preparing for my first baby. She is three-years-old now!
I moved my daughter and I out of the family home not long before COVID-19 Alert Level 4, and we moved in with my sister. My husband was not prepared to change his ways and I needed a stable environment for my daughter. I knew we needed to get our own place but there was just so much to organise and I felt overwhelmed.
I had recently been made redundant so I needed a new job, a house, household furniture and appliances. I will still seeing the counsellor at Nga Kete, and she referred me to Whanau Ora.
Wow. What a massive help it was. I was able to sit down with the navigator, discuss all of the things I needed to do and what I wanted my future to look like, make goals of how to make that happen and then check in every once in a while. I found the navigator to have a huge wealth of knowledge and resources. If I was overlooking anything, or there was something in the community that could help, I was always pointed in the right direction.
I really struggled to get a home. Rent at the moment is just so expensive. I felt like I was hitting my head against a brick wall. I couldn’t even go to house viewings because they were overwhelmed with a large number of people looking. I was checking Seek, Trade Me, and other real estate websites online twice a day or more. The navigator suggested I make my Facebook profile public as, although not official, it represents a lot about a person. So I did that.
The navigator helped me to not spin out. I had been looking at everything I needed to do and getting stressed and anxious but she helped me to put everything into perspective, and into steps.
I hadn’t even taken a breath to appreciate anything I had already done, and she helped me to see that I had actually achieved a lot, which made me feel a lot better. She was calming, focused, and full of appreciation for what I had already done. I didn’t feel so alone in it all when I had the navigator walking alongside me, and I don’t think I would have achieved as much as I did if I had continued trying to do it all at once.
Everything in my Whanau Ora plan has been achieved so I am feeling confident about the future. I can start enjoying life again, and I’m hoping to continue to gain financially stability and plan some holidays with my family.