I had a lot of ups and downs throughout my pregnancy.
I was depressed, I was having difficulties with my unborn child’s father, I was anxious about labour due to family history, and I’d made the decision I would adopt my son out.
Things got so bad I sought help at Mental Health, who referred me to Nga Kete and its Pregnancy and Parenting Service. I was about 6 months pregnant at the time.
By now I had made the decision to keep my son after learning about the adoption process, but it hadn’t made things any easier.
Deli Diack, of the Pregnancy and Parenting Service, started visiting me at home and we worked together on self-building and my mental state. She helped me to get back to who I am, which was hard because I was all over the place. She supplied me with basic information and reminded me I’m actually worth something.
The labour came and went in the blink of an eye – under three hours to be exact and everything went smoothly.
Afterwards, Deli and I continued to work on me, and what’s right for my son and being a Mum.
My son is six months old now and I love him to pieces. I still have my down days but I’ve just got to do what I can and that’s all I can do. I know I’m doing the best that I can.
I feel so blessed for the help I’ve received from Nga Kete. Things would have been a lot more difficult for me if Deli hadn’t come on board. Her personality really lifts me, and I’m happy to soak up some of her energy!
About the service: Deli Diack is a qualified child birth educator and assessor for the New Zealand Breast Feeding Authority. She works alongside midwives and supports pregnant women and dad’s, and if required the whole whanau, around practical solutions to pregnancy and parenting challenges, breastfeeding and stop smoking support, access to local pregnancy and parenting services, one-on-one support, advocacy: linkage and connection to other service and ongoing support.
It’s about enabling, encouraging, and enhancing the journey through parenting. It’s about building resilience and confidence to be the best parents they can be.
Deli describes the service as unique because she has the time to listen. “If a mummy needs support for more than an hour a week, that’s what she’ll get.”
How to refer? Individuals, health providers, and community organisations can refer by phoning 0800 925 242 or by visiting Level 2, 92 Spey Street, Invercargill.